4.25.2010

SLOW LOVE

Copies of my new book, Slow Love, are being shipped out, and I recently got mine. I'm so excited to finally see it--and I feel like I did when I was a first time mother in the maternity ward, afraid to take the diaper off my new baby, afraid he might fall apart if I unwrapped him! Now I've been in labor long enough to birth an elephant, and I'm afraid to take off the book's jacket or look inside, for fear that the pages will be blank! Classic Writer Nightmare.

The book looks beautiful. Thank you to publisher Jim Atlas, Lauren LeBlanc, my editor, Sara Stemen, the copy designer, and Gabriele Wilson, the jacket designer. I love the size, it could slip into a pocket and feels like a little gift. (You can order by clicking here.) It is interesting that so far the media has focused on how honest I am about getting thrown off balance by losing my job. What's the point of writing if you don't dig deep? But SLOW LOVE is mostly about a journey back to equilibrium--indeed, into the happiest and most productive state I've enjoyed in ages. That's why I wrote the book, and that's the message I want to share: There is a way out of heartbreak and confusion.

38 comments:

Cindy Kilkenny said...

Awesome! Book tour schedule? What's the chance of laying my hands on a signed copy?

Willow Decor said...
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Pamela Terry and Edward said...

How thrilling!
Having loved your other books, I cannot wait to read this one!

Toad said...

Today has been cold and rainy and I have been curled up all afternoon with my copy.

Thank you for sharing your story.

lostpastremembered said...

You have a community that wishes you well and hopes to help your book to thrive not unlike an elephant calf and the warm family that nurtures it. Here's to the success of Slow Love!

victoria thorne said...

A journey back to equilibrium; thank God!

Wouldn't it be wonderful if this was the harbinger of a new movement, a quiet tsunami, back to equilibrium--toward happiness and productivity?

I think it may be so . . . and I have a feeling you've written one of the great guidebooks for the age.

Thrilled that the media is focusing on your honesty.

Feel the winds of change blowing? Yes.

Anonymous said...

Heard you on CNN today. Hallelujah! It's so good to know that other women are going through this transition (called ACT II of life for those of us 55 and over). I'm right there with you for the past two years, been through the fog, worked in the pj's, grieved the life I had and now fully embracing the new life and true north that is emerging. It would be great to "gather the women" for a conference or a weekend to celebrate our new found "slow love life!" Thank you for your candor and scouting out the territory and reporting back to others of us who are walking the same life pathway!
To slow Love!

ArchitectDesign™ said...

Congratulations -the cover looks fantastic and I can't wait to get my hands on a copy to read!

pve design said...

I am ordering this along with your other books!
pve

An Aesthete's Lament said...

Many congratulations. I am very anxious to get a copy and immerse myself in its pages!

TeaButterfly said...

Congrats! Can't wait to get my own copy!

-Vic

Linda@ Lime in the Coconut said...

Oh and it looks like a beautiful baby elephant you birthed! Sounds intriguing...Think I need to find one!

david terry said...

Dear Ms. Browning,
You're right; the cover design is extremely elegant. That and the unusually compact size are strikingly similar to the St. Martin's edition of John Bayely's "Elegy for Iris"....which seems appropriate, since both books are disarmingly (that's a good thing, I think) intimate "portraits". I assume that both you and Bayley would far prefer to hear that your reader burrowed down into an armchair and read your small, remarkably-honest book in one long afternoon, than to hear that some flashy ("It's got to CATCH PEOPLE'S EYES in the bookstore!") edition was displayed and sbusequently left un-read on a coffee table. In any case, the size of the book is important....yours just seems, for several reasons, a perfect gift. My copy arrived on Friday, and I spent this just-past, rainy Saturday afternoon reading it (and grateful for, if nothing else, a reprieve from three days of tilling in composted cow-manure). I wasn't halfway through this book when I made a list of the seven or so folks for whom I know I'll be ordering a copy. I'll admit that most of my friends are getting to the age at which they don't exactly relish an ostentatious observance of their birthdays.....so, and particularly given the book's size, "Slow Love" is the perfect (once again) gift to slip into their mailboxes.

Thanks again for your continued reflections and writings,

David Terry
www.davidterryart.com

david terry said...

P.S. (and in regard to, without disagreeing with, "anonymous"'s above-comment)....
Oddly enough(and I have considered the matter when I've given copies of your previous books as gifts), I've never in the least considered your books to be "women's writing". I've given away copies to folks who aren't at all gardeners, couldn't be less invested in home-decor (that would include haphazard Me), didn't have children (or, for that matter, ever been anything other than celibate; I've given it to two nuns I know, who enjoyed your first book mightily)...etcetera. I simply think of you as a very thoughtful and surprisingly (for these days) graceful lyrical-essayist. Yes...the writing's primarily "autobiographical", but it's scarcely self-indulgent.....which is a rare breed these days.

I just sent my copy (read it this past weekend and ordered myself another one) to my 72 year old father in Tennessee. He's been married to my mother for 52 years, raised three sons more-or-less sucessfully (we're all still alive and no one's living in his basement), and is "happy" in all sorts of ways. At the same time?....like almost anyone lately, he's being forced learn how to cope with various other insecurities (financial, health, etc) and sudden upsets.

Oh...in any case, I'd be dispirited to find your books relegated to the "Women's Writing" or (even worse yet) "Self-Help" sections of the bookstores.

I've happily noticed that, thus far, neither you nor your books have b een shoved into some "Marketing niche".....which is a very good thing, and which has probably taken some very conscious effort on your part.

congratulations,

David Terry
www.davidterryart.com

abirdinhand63 said...

I received my copy this past Friday and have been stealing moments to read it all weekend. It is lovely inside and out. Congratulations to you.

Sally@DivnieDistractions said...

I'm excited to become one of your new fans...both of the blog and now of your new book. I love a little book that I can put on my desk and refer to as the day goes on. It sounds just right for those momentary respites in the day when you need to move away from the computer screen to words that have more life and energy. I can't wait to peruse the pages.

Vava (aka Virginia) said...

My heart skipped a beat 20 minutes ago when the postman rang the bell. Aaahh....a brown Amazon package. I KNEW what was awaiting me. I've put it in a favorite spot until I can sit (alone) to devour it. It's the prettiest size; however, as a hardback - do I dare highight and scribble in it? The first two books are in paperback and I don't feel quite as brutal; doodling in paperbacks. I simply CANNOT wait to crack open the pages! At 55, I too, am coming out of a fog...into a season of hope and excitement! Here's to YOU!!!! Cheers!

C.J. said...

I have long awaited your next book and was not expecting 'Slow Love'. I stayed up all night reading. I am sorry you had to go through that nightmare, but glad you made it through the process. I was 'downsized' after 15 years with my employer and it happened right after I had returned from my mother's funeral. We seem to share some of the same reactions and you helped validated many of the feelings I had at that time as well - for that I am grateful. Thank you!!!!

Jill Seidner | Interior Design said...

Congrats on the book! I just ordered my copy from Amazon! Hope it's a great success!

Dominique said...

THANK YOU to everyone for kind and generous responses. I do hope you like SLOW LOVE, or at the very least, that it might give you insight into what people are going through--both because of loss, but also because of new life stages, wherever that finds you. Of course I hope the book sells--so that I can keep writing more books--and so I deeply appreciate your purchases. I'm off to Tennessee to spend time with friends in Franklin, and then: another road trip. This one to Oxford, Mississippi where I will finally get to see the legendary Square Books. I have heard so much about it over the years.

Vava (aka Virginia) said...

(I may be late) but just heard Mary Chapin Carpenter's "I have a need for solitude." Lovely and here it is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=13l3w50a65o.
Seems appropos for those of us that dig (solitude) and dig outdoors. In the quiet. :)

Word Actress said...

I'm following right behind all of you like a new puppy saying, Hey, wait up guys!' Yes, do have a conference for all of us in this predicament. I'm finishing up my second book, a novel, Night Surfing, but the book after that will be PSYCHO as in HOW MY DIVORCE IS MAKING ME PSYCHO! I'm selling jewelry, books, clothing, my body to the night(just kidding!), Series EE Bonds. My Dad has even sent me a little $$$ and I'm not 20! I keep telling myself CHANGE THE THOUGHT, this too will pass. Don't let this define you. But it is terribly, terribly almost paralyzing-ly frightening at times. And I don't have the dollars or lack of responsibility to go off like that EAT, PRAY, LOVE chick did and go find myself!

I'm so glad my friend just turned me on to this blog and your book. My new song - WILD HORSES by Natasha Bedingfield...Wish I could recklessly love, like I'm longing to/Run with the wild horses, just run with the wild horses...Mary Kennedy Eastham, Author, The Shadow of a Dog I Can't Forget and the upcoming novel Night Surfing

Anonymous said...

So happy to have received this book! It's a treasure. I have your other books too but miss your monthly columns. Happy to have the blogg though.
Wishing you the best,
Beth Hagan

Willow Decor said...

Not sure how my post was removed, but so excited about the new book! I read it cover to cover and LOVED it!! Thanks again for extra insights on Willow Decor! The response has been overwhelming!!
xx-Gina

Alyssa Shelasky said...

It's a gorgeous book, with a side of beautiful blog! I can't wait to buy a copy and take it to bed for a few nights. Your blog is officially part of my daily ritual too. Also, I noticed you listed my blog, ApronAnxiety.com, as a favorite and I can't thank you enough! What an honor! xx Alyssa
ps- do you twitter?

Karena said...

Dominique I have heard so much, and now I am so excited to get your book.

Karena
Art by Karena

Mrs C said...

Congratulations on your book, I'm sure it'll be a very interesting read....you had me at the title - I love it!!

Mrs C x

lily zajc said...

Dominique,
I applaud you for writing this book and can't wait to read it. I too lost my job in November and felt emotionally connected to what you said on the CNN interview about feeling a loss of purpose, schedule, social interaction, and all that comes with having a job. I was not an editor for 13 years, but an advertising director for 2. I loved my job and looked forward to making decisions, writing for a living and earning the respect of my peers. Now, as I sit writing this in my pajamas, about to embark on an Internet job search, I know that I must motivate myself to feel worthy, purposeful and not slip down into the abyss of resignation. Will you be doing a book tour on Long Island? Congratulations on the book. I'm sure it will be inspirational to me.
Lily Z.

Anonymous said...

I have just 40 pages left to read and am waiting until later this evening to savor the final chapters. I so love your writing and was thrilled at not only the new book but the daily doses of Slow Love from the blog. Thank you, thank you!

abirdinhand63 said...

I just finished it. I think I will have to reread a few passages towards the end so they will sink in better. For me...my interpretation...the piano was a turning point. It was all uphill from there. I had to laugh at your description of getting into your kayak. I have one also and I agree...it is not always pretty. I hope this sells well for you as well so you can keep them coming. I am envious of your peace and solitude. It is not my season for it yet, but I feel that one day it will come. Thank you for a peek into what it can look like.

My Dog-Eared Pages said...

I am enjoying every word and it speaks to so much of my life at this very moment.... I must also comment on the design of the book - it's just perfect!! Congratulations.

Grace said...

I can't remember how I arrived at your blog, but since I have, I've enjoyed every single post. Thus, I've placed an order for your book on amazon.co.uk, hoping for it to soon ship here in the UK. Your writing inspires me to follow a dream. Thank you.

ed french said...

I just finished your book. FANTASTIC!!! Bravo to you for telling a great story. As a 53 year old man, I know it sounds funny, but i felt connected as soon as I picked it up. Thank you somuch for your work.

Catherine Frinier said...

Congratulations, Dominique! It is beautiful. I will enjoy and have already ordered to give as gifts. Thank you so much!

Catherine

cindy said...

i picked up a copy of your book at the new york botanical garden this weekend and i'm really enjoying it. i photographed it with some lilies of the valley from our garden before realizing they represent 'return of happiness', which seems most appropriate. i mentioned the book on our blog today if you have a chance to visit.

Lauren Deutsch said...

I knew I was getting laid-off a year before the day it happened (December 1, 2009) and was in fact enlisted to lay myself off!

No hard feelings, really. I don't blame my former employer for my lack of work, rather, my bone of contention is directed to the folks who haven't hired me. C'mon!

It wasn't bittersweet, rather, it gave me the opportunity to begin to write one of my endless number of projects-in-mind: about begging. As an out-of-work nonprofit professional advocate / propagandist (i.e. fund raiser and communications director) I realized there was something amiss in the picture ... i've been begging organizations to hire me to beg for them ... silly, perhaps.

Thus, the Holy Beggar blog (holybeggar.blogspot.com) was born. It looks at certain issues about the distribution of wealth (I like giving change to folks who have even less than I ... should I be asking for myself now?)

I've been out of work before (celebrate with chocolate!) but not like this. I've been very productive in the blog and many other writing projects, have been volunteering on some interesting projects, but hey, I need a job! I really do. The money pays for a place to live, etc.

Is it our "job" to make being out of work look sweet? A good job is a blessing; I knew it even before reading the late, great Studs Terkel's book "Working". If I am not privileged to get another job for the rest of my life, something beautiful will be missing. I have no other source of support, but I do have loving friends and family.

Good "luck" (?) to us all!

Heather said...

Oh no, oh no, oh no....I am almost finished reading the book and I am sad. I don't want it to end! Thank you for your lovely writing Dominique. I want more! I used to cry over your letters from the editor in House & Garden. Will you be making a visit to Powells Books in Portland perhaps?
Congratulations. The book is wonderful and what a beautiful cover.

Ronnie said...

Loved the book so much I wrote this review: http://www.care2.com/greenliving/slow-love-shows-us-the-purpose-of-life-can-be-just-that.html

Thank you for sharing your story!