New year resolutions always seem to involve food, diet, exercise. But this year my list on that front is short. Other resolutions clamor for attention. Here are mine; I hope you will share your lists.
Don't just sit there. Do something.
Exercise. Every day.
Get off the elevator three floors before yours. Get off the bus five stops away.
Cut sugar out of the daily diet.
Cut plastic water bottles out of your life. I'll get into this in more depth another time, but scientists are circling in on one cause of the massive hike in depression among women: endocrine disrupters, like Bisphenols in plastics.
Back off Bad Brain. Imagine your baby was learning to walk, taking her first steps. Imagine if, every time she fell, you said: Bad Girl. You can't walk. You'll never learn. Unthinkable to treat a child's tentative steps that way, right? And yet we treat ourselves that way all the time. Let up on the critical hammer pounding away at your soul.
Don't just do something. Sit there.
A moment of stillness. Every day.
An act of kindness. Every day.
A whisper of thanks. Every day.
A smile. Every hour.
Add fifteen seconds to the hug you give a loved one. Just keep him in your arms, against your heart, that much longer. You will feel a remarkable difference.
Sleep. Sleep. Sleep. And more sleep. A good night's sleep is the key to well-being.
Rearrange your thinking. About everything.
There is no magic to being a positive person. Just decide to be positive: that glass is half full, if not brimming. When your hobbled brain goes down the negative path (a path as worn and well trod as the path of a horse to a trough) stop it. Too busy? How marvelous that your talents are so desirable. Too tired? Awesome to be so active. (And get some more sleep.) Annoyed by a loved one's constant carping? How sad, that she is so miserable. But you don't have to be.
And thinking about the world's biggest problem, climate chaos?
You could say: climate change is an overwhelming mess, and we are nowhere near solving it. Whatever we do in this country is swamped by what is happening in China, India...There is no point in trying. I can't deal with it.
You could also say: We are at the threshold of a global transition, an amazing, uplifting, profound shift in our thinking about our relationship to our world. The signs are all around us. In every country. We must nurture those flickers of change. Move toward hope.
Don't focus on setbacks--in any part of your life. There will always be setbacks. They are, in fact, a good sign: they indicate that you are pushing at boundaries. Focus on victories.
Practice patience. Abandon apathy.
Be relentless. Every. Single. Day.